Last week on the Washington Post Express FB Live segment of Baggage Check, I got to cover major issues that come up for couples with respect to money. But hopefully it is clear that money is just the topic, and the real issue is usually something much deeper like … Continue reading
Financial infidelity is not a legal ground for divorce anywhere that I am aware of, but just because it may not be illegal does not make it right. Just because you can do something does not mean you should do it. Let me give you some examples of what … Continue reading
During the holidays, many families struggle with these three questions:
1. Where will we be for the holidays?
2. Who will we be with?
3. How much will we spend?
If a couple is not on the same page with respect to these issues, they tend to face a perfect … Continue reading
Imagine that one day someone tells you that you have to find a new place to live relying on only half your household income, while at the same time your assets are reduced by 50%. Be honest, no matter who you are that’s going to hurt. To make matters worse, … Continue reading
What most people going through a divorce dwell on is the why, or how did we get to this point? Unfortunately, not everyone is capable of having a closure conversation, and many will be deprived of the apology they so long for, and perhaps rightly deserve. Ultimately, it only takes … Continue reading
Conscious uncoupling is not something invented by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, who decided to separate amicably in 2014. It is actually a movement that has been around for decades, and it is skillfully executed by trained mediators, who promote Alternate Dispute Resolution (“ADR”) methods for couples that want to … Continue reading
They say freedom is priceless, and yet when you are contemplating a divorce, there are some pretty significant costs to consider before calling it quits, unless you are economically on par with couples like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Here are the top 3 expenses you must budget for when … Continue reading
Anyone over the age of 35 that has gone through a divorce has baggage– even if there were no children that resulted from that marriage. We all have poured time and energy into a relationship that failed, and when all your hopes and dreams for that marriage are shattered, it … Continue reading
Summer is almost here, and while the kids are out of school, this is the time when a lot of parents considering a separation decide to plan a move. But before vacating the marital residence, here are 7 key points to consider:
1. Get legal advice. It is critical … Continue reading
No one I know still believes that because someone says, “I do” at the alter, s/he is really stuck with someone forever, especially if things get ugly. Most would agree that if someone becomes abusive, develops a nasty addiction, or commits adultery, these are all valid grounds for abandoning ship, … Continue reading
We all need something from others– truly, not a single person I have encountered over the last four decades operates as an island. But the key question to keep in mind when asking for something is this: how big is your ask? The bigger the favor, the more prepared you … Continue reading
On average, 1 Million Americans each year manage to survive the divorce process, and yet these numbers are somehow not particularly reassuring to those going through a divorce who feel like they are free falling into the bottomless pit of hell. Am I being overly melodramatic? Not even close for … Continue reading
Change is scary for a lot of people, especially sudden, unexpected or unwanted changes that impact our core needs. Unfortunately, those going through a divorce will experience great uncertainty in various aspects of their lives all at once, which explains the dramatic rise in situational depression or anxiety among those … Continue reading
Is there really such a thing as a mid-life crisis? Well, “crisis” is a bit of a misnomer, when what is really going on is more of a wake-up call that seems to occur when people hit their mid to late 40’s. The reason this occurs is simple– this is … Continue reading